Unconditional

Unconditional

Romans 5:6-7
For while we were still helpless, at the appointed moment, Christ died for the ungodly. For rarely will someone die for a just person- though for a good person perhaps someone might even dare to die. But God proves His own love for us in that while we were still sinners Christ died for us. 

Does God really love me? If He loves me, why would He allow this to happen to me? Why can’t I feel His presence? I have done so many bad things, can God really love someone like me?

We all ask this questions from time to time especially when we are going through hard seasons in our lives. For some reason we equate God's love with the good seasons in our life and when things are not so good we take that to mean that God is not happy with us, thus we question His love for us. We hardly have any doubts about the love of God for us when we are going through a season of plenty and favor.

This is so because many times our love is conditional. For some of us when growing up, our fathers were proud to show us off saying this is my son or daughter when we had done a good thing like getting straight (A) in our exams. The moment we get a (C) we are no longer referred to as my son or daughter by our fathers, instead we become our mothers children.

Even in the house of God we tend to show our love to one another conditionally. When a brother or sister falls from grace instead of loving them back into the fellowship we push them away. We start avoiding them and spreading all manner of stories about them.

Does God love us in the same way? No He does not. God’s love for us is unconditional. We cannot do anything to earn it; neither can we do anything to take it away.

God did not look down from heaven and think, wow! These guys are so good, they are praying, loving one another and worshiping me. Let me send my son to redeem them because they are so good!

No, the bible says that while we were still sinners in our filth, God loved us and sent His son to die for us. It has nothing to do with what we did.

There is nothing that you can do to make God love you more and there is nothing that you can do to make Him love you less. God loves all of us the same, and that should be the message we emphasize this Christmas season!

Many songs have been sung about love but this one thing is for sure, God's love is worth singing about forever!

Prayer Points
- Take some time and thank God for His unconditional love.
- Ask God to fill you with His love that you may love others unconditionally.
- Thank God for Christmas the season the whole world recognizes that Jesus came.
- Pray for the lost to embrace God's love.
- Pray for the nation and those who are travelling this Christmas season.
- Pray for Family media.
- Commit your plans before God and ask Him to guide you.

PRACTICAL APPLICATION
As you reflect upon God's love allow His joy to fill your life….Be happy!

Bitch I’ve Had Enough

Bitch I’ve Had Enough

I don’t know how

To compete with you

In a game

That you have already won

For so many years

You are such a witch

I know your name

I always smell you

He tells my ears

About you

I hate

the attention you get

the affection you get

the time spent on you

the money invested in you

I wish

I was able to I give

The satisfaction that you give

The comfort that you deliver

The courage   thatyou give

The confidence that you inspire

The strength that you give

I hate

The way you are available

Any day any time

In a restaurant or club

Your varieties for

Any one any where

Whether  cheap or expensive

I wish

You  leave my man for me

He will be passionate towards me

He will praise  me

Like a queen

His love for  me

Will be bigger tan an elephant

He will share me with friend

In every table of men

I wish

He will be proud of me

Like old wine

He will be royal to me

Like an opener

He  will never leave me

whether its hot or cold

He will be there for me

The way he is always there for you

Bitch go far from my man

I have had enough

Do you Want to get well?

Do you want to get well?

Sometimes we get so attached to our situations and problems. They become our identity so much that inwardly we are not willing to give it up. Maybe it’s that secret sin that you condemn outwardly but inwardly you are so attached to the pleasure you derive from it. Perhaps you are so attached to the sympathy and the attention you get because of your situation that you are not willing to give it up.

As always Jesus does not impose, He is asking a direct question. Sometimes instead of giving a direct answer we are busy giving excuses and trying to explain our situation and why we are in it.

The Lord asks, do you want a job? And instead of simply saying yes or no, you start giving excuses…..well I don’t have the right qualifications, my father never took me to collage, I don’t have a rich uncle to connect me to a good job….

Do you want to be healed? Well….. I don’t have the money to go to hospital, I don’t have someone to take me to hospital, and this sickness is terminal…What all these excuses are exposing is lack of faith in the ability of the God we serve.
A man had been sick for 38 years; this is longer than Jesus had walked this earth (John 5:5-9). Every now and then an angel would come and stir up the waters of the pool called Bethesda, and the first person to get into the waters would be healed.

We don’t know how many times the man had sought healing at the pool but as it is, he was always late for his miracle. Jesus asked him a very simple question, “Do you want to get well?”

Now imagine you are this man, you have been sick for 38 years. Many times you have tried to get to the pool to get your healing but you always come short. Healing means a new way of life. You no longer have to depend on others, no limitations or being secluded. What would your answer be?

Amazingly, the man responds by giving excuses and reasons why he has not been healed, and guess what, he is no different from you and I. He blames someone else for his lack of healing. He says he has no man to help him to the pool when the water is stirred.


The man in the story needed someone to boldly prophesy over his life and then he got his healing without going to the pool.

Now, what was the question again?
Do you want to get well?

Practice What You Preach

Practice What You Preach

A preacher got on a bus and discovered he had been given too much change. When he was getting off the bus, he told the bus driver who replied, "I know". "Why did you give me too much?" asked the preacher. "I was in church yesterday and heard you preach," replied the driver. "I wanted to see if you were worth listening to."

How much do you know? Have you ever been around people who know alot and you are mesmerized by their knowledge? Knowing is one thing but without application then what you know will not be beneficial to you.

The bible says you shall know the truth and the truth will make you free. It is only able to do that once we apply it and walk in it.

Your habits and actions will reveal to you what you really believe and not your words or knowledge. The bible says knowledge puffs up, you may know lots of scriptures but how many of them are you actually applying in your life?

Every Sunday we go to church and we are taught from the word of God it is only when we begin to apply the word we are taught from the tiny things like what the pastor in our story was faced with to what we consider the large things that we find growth and stability in our walk with God.

Don't ignore anything, be faithful especially in the small things because this forms the foundation for you to be faithful when the big things come.


1 Corinthians 9:27
But I keep control of my body, and bring it into subjection, lest that by any means, when I have preached to others, I myself should be a castaway.

Leadership is about creating a way for

people to contribute to making

Something extraordinary happen.

About getting extraordinary

performance out of ordinary people.

What do you want?

What do you want?

Jesus asks blind Bartimaeus a very interesting question. I find it interesting because of the scenario before him. Here you have a blind man, Bartimaeus asking for help.

The most logical thing you would think of is that since he is blind then he wants to be healed right? Wrong? That’s making an assumption. Jesus never made the assumption; he asks the man to clearly articulate what he wants Jesus to do for him.

Bartimaeus knew what he wanted and he clearly voiced it to Jesus, he wanted to see and because of his faith, he received sight. One very important lesson we can learn here is the importance of knowing what you want. If you have no idea what you want, then how will you know it when you see it?

Many of us miss out on the opportunities in life because we are not clear on what we want. We settle for anything. Sometimes we settle for what is available not because we have no idea what we want but simply because it can get us going or act as a vessel to get us to where we want to go.

Bartimaeus knew one thing and that is he wanted to see. If he had sight then his whole life would be turned around and he would not have to depend on others begging by the road side.

He had the faith that Jesus was able to make that a possibility in his life so when he heard that Jesus was passing by, he recognized an opportunity that no one else saw.

Do you know what you want? I wondered today if Jesus was to ask the same question, how many of us would be able to clearly articulate what we want?

Mark 10:49-52
(49) Jesus stopped and said, “Call him over!” They called out to the blind man and said, “Don’t be afraid! Come on! He is calling for you.” (50) The man threw off his coat as he jumped up and ran to Jesus. (51) Jesus asked, “What do you want me to do for you?” The blind man answered, “Master, I want to see!” (52) Jesus told him, “You may go. Your eyes are healed because of your faith.” Right away the man could see, and he went down the road with Jesus.

WORDS FROM A FATHER TO A SON ABOUT MARRIAGE

WORDS FROM A FATHER TO A SON ABOUT
MARRIAGE
1. My son, if you keep spending on a woman and
she never asked you if you’re saving or investing,
and she keeps enjoying the attention, don’t marry
her.
2. My son, a woman could be a
good wife to you, some could be a good mother
to your children but if you’ve found a woman like
a mother to you, your children and your family,
please don’t let her go.
3. My son, don’t confine the position of your wife
to the kitchen, where did you get that from? Even
in our days, we had farm-lands where they
worked every morning . . . that was our office.
4. My son, if I tell you that you’re the head of the
house, don’t look at your pocket; look if you will
see a smile on your wife’s face.
5. My son, if you want to have a long life, let your
wife be in- charge of your salary, it will be
difficult for her to spend it when she’s aware of
the home needs and bills to pay but if it’s in your
care, she will keep you asking even when all has
been spent.
6. My son, don’t ever beat your woman, the pain
in her body is nothing to be compared to the
wound on her heart and that means you may be
in trouble living with a wounded woman.
7. My son, now that you’re married, if you live a
bachelor kind of life with your wife, you will soon
be single again.
8. My son, in our days, we had
many wives and many children because of our
large farm- lands and many harvests, there are
hardly any land for farming anymore, so embrace
your woman closely.
9. My son, under the cocoa tree that I did meet
your mother could be your eateries and
restaurants of nowadays, but remember, the
closet thing we did there was to embrace each
other.
10. My son, don’t be carried away when you start
making more money, instead of
spending on those tiny legs that never knew how
hard you worked to get it, spend it on that
woman that stood by you all along.
11. My son, when I threw little stones or whistled
at the window of your mother
father’s house, to call her out, it was not for sex,
it was because I missed her so much.
12. My son, remember, when you say your wife
has changed, there could be something you’ve
stopped doing too.
13. My son, your mother rode the bicycle with me
before I bought that tortoise car
outside there, any woman that won’t endure with
you in your little beginning should not enjoy your
riches.
14. My son, don’t compare your wife to any
woman, there are ways she’s enduring you too
and has she ever compared you to any man?
15. My son, there is this thing you people call
feminism, well, if a woman claim to have equal
right with you in the house,
divide all the bills into two equal parts, take one
part and ask her to start paying the other part.
16. My son, I met your mother a virgin and I took
more yams to her father, if you don’t meet your
wife a virgin, don’t blame
her, what I didn’t tell you is that our women had
prestige.
17. My son, I didn’t send your sisters to school
because I was foolish like many to think a female
child won’t extend my
family name, please don’t make that mistake, the
kind of female achievers I see nowadays has
made the male-gender an ordinary tag.
18. My son, your mother have once locked up the
cloth I was wearing and almost tore it because
she was angry, I did not raise my hand to beat
her because of a day like this, so that I can be
proud to tell you that I never for once beat your
mother.
19. My son, in our days, our women had more of
natural beauty, though I wouldn’t lie to you, some
had minor painting of their appellation mostly on
their arms, the ones you people now call tattoo,
but don’t forget that they didn’t expose any part
of their body like your women of nowadays.
20. My son, your mother and I are not interested
in what happens in your marriage, try to handle
issues without always coming to us.
21. My son, remember I bought your mother’s
first sewing machine for her, help your wife
achieve her dreams just as you’re pursuing yours.
22. My son, don’t stop taking care of me and
your mother, so that your children will take care
of you too

I am waiting on God!

A father gives his daughter instructions about what he expects her to do in a specific matter. The daughter hesitates and then cuts in with a question. The father keeps at his work on the computer and does not even look up. “But daddy…..” the child insisted and phrased the matter in another way.

Mother walked in to find out why it was talking too long for the command to be fulfilled. The daughter answered “I am trying to find out what daddy wants me to do.”

At this point daddy breaks in and says “No. you are not trying to find out what I want you to do, you are trying to see if you can make me relent on the conditions so that you will be able to do what you really want to do instead of doing what I want you to do. Now go and do it immediately.”

Obedience that’s the action many of us struggle with as we walk with God because sometimes he does tell us to do something’s that are hard to understand. Obedience is easy when God tells you to do something that you already want to do or something that is simple enough to do.

But what about when he tells you sacrifice your only son like he did to Abraham, or when he tells you to give and what you have can barely meet your needs? Do you obey or give excuses?

Just like the girl, how many times do we stall in following God's instructions because we are trying to make God relent on His instructions so we can do what we really want to do?

As I was thinking about this, I thought that many times we say we are waiting on God not because we have no idea what God wants us to do, but the reality is that we are waiting on God because we are trying to make God relent on His instructions so we can do what we really want to do.

Are you waiting on God? Well, have you done the last thing he told you to do? Why would you expect new instructions if you have not followed the previous instructions you were given?

God's word is full of instructions of how we are to live life, loving one another, forgiving each other, considering others better than ourselves, spurring each others to good works, giving to the ministry and to the poor and the list goes on. I hope we are not neglecting to do these as we sing out the phrase “I am waiting on God!”

Deuteronomy 5:33
Walk in obedience to all that the Lord your God has commanded you, so that you may live and prosper and prolong your days in the land that you will possess.

Loose Cables

2 Timothy 1:7
For God did not give us a spirit of timidity, but a spirit of power, of love and of self-discipline.

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Loose Cables

A new missionary was assigned a car that would not start without a push. After pondering his problem, the missionary devised a plan. He went to the school near his home, got permission to take some children out of class, and had them push his car off.

As he made his rounds, he would either park on a hill or leave the engine running. He used this ingenious procedure for two years.

Poor health forced the missionary and his family to leave and a new missionary came in to replace him. While being shown the arrangement for getting the car started; the new man began looking under the hood.

Before the explanation was complete, the new missionary interrupted, “Why, I believe the only trouble is this loose cable.” He gave the cable a twist, stepped into the car, pushed the switch, and to the leaving missionary’s astonishment, the engine roared to life.

For two years needless trouble had become routine. The power was there all the time. Only a loose connection kept him from putting that power to work.

The bible tells us that God has given us a spirit of power, it’s ours but many people have no idea how to activate that power. Just like the missionary in our story you may be going through inconveniences in your life and probably you have come to the place where you have accepted it as the norm simply because you do not know how to activate the power at your disposal. Or you do not have the faith that that power is there for you in the first place.

2 Peter 1:3 His divine power has given us everything we need for life and godliness through our knowledge of him who called us by his own glory and goodness.

In our story the second missionary was able to activate the power in the car because he had knowledge on how the car operated and he put it into action.

In the same way we are able to activate his power through our knowledge of Him. You will not access His power through my knowledge of Him or through your pastor’s knowledge of Him. It is through YOUR knowledge of Him.

To know Him you have to stick with the basics. You have to pray, you have to study the word, you have to worship, you have to get closer to Him daily.

Like the first missionary, are you always needing a push, always needing someone to pray for you because you always don’t have the power to pray for yourself?

Do you always need someone to push you with an encouraging word? Do you always need to place yourself strategically around certain individuals because you need them to boost you and push you in a certain direction?

There is power available that God has freely given us. Power to set you free from addictions, power to heal you, power for everything you need for life and godliness.

Like our missionary you don’t need to pack on a hill and neither do you always need a push, just learn how to tap into the power instead of fear, ensure your cables are always properly connected.

Reflection
Knowing God more gives us greater access to His power, to know Him we have to spend time with Him!

The Four Wives

Mark 8:36 (KJV)
For what shall it profit a man, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul?

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The Four Wives

I came across this story and it illustrates this verse very well. There was a rich merchant who had 4 wives. He loved the 4th wife the most and adorned her with rich robes and treated her to delicacies.

He took great care of her and gave her nothing but the best. He also loved the 3rd wife very much. He's very proud of her and always wanted to show off her to his friends. However, the merchant is always in great fear that she might run away with some other men.

He too, loved his 2nd wife. She is a very considerate person, always patient and in fact is the merchant's confidante. Whenever the merchant faced some problems, he always turned to his 2nd wife and she would always help him out and tide him through difficult times.

Now, the merchant's 1st wife is a very loyal partner and has made great contributions in maintaining his wealth and business as well as taking care of the household. However, the merchant did not love the first wife and although she loved him deeply, he hardly took notice of her.

One day, the merchant fell ill. Before long, he knew that he was going to die soon. He thought of his luxurious life and told himself, "Now I have 4 wives with me. But when I die, I'll be alone. How lonely I'll be!"

Thus, he asked the 4th wife, "I loved you most, endowed you with the finest clothing and showered great care over you. Now that I'm dying, will you follow me and keep me company?" "No way!" replied the 4th wife and she walked away without another word.

The answer cut like a sharp knife into the merchant's heart. The sad merchant then asked the 3rd wife, "I have loved you so much for all my life. Now that I'm dying, will you follow me and keep me company?" "No!" replied the 3rd wife. “Life is so good over here! I'm going to remarry when you die!" The merchant's heart sank and turned cold.

He then asked the 2nd wife, "I always turned to you for help and you've always helped me out. Now I need your help again. When I die, will you follow me and keep me company?" "I'm sorry, I can't help you out this time!" replied the 2nd wife. "At the very most, I can only send you to your grave." The answer came like a bolt of thunder and the merchant was devastated.

Then a voice called out: "I'll leave with you. I'll follow you no matter where you go." The merchant looked up and there was his first wife. She was so skinny, almost like she suffered from malnutrition. Greatly grieved, the merchant said, "I should have taken much better care of you while I could have!"Actually, we all have 4 wives in our lives.

a. The 4th wife is our body. No matter how much time and effort we lavish in making it look good, it'll leave us when we die.

b. Our 3rd wife? Our possessions, status and wealth. When we die, they all go to others.

c. The 2nd wife is our family and friends. No matter how close they had been there for us when we're alive, the furthest they can stay by us is up to the grave.

d. The 1st wife is in fact our soul, often neglected in our pursuit of material, wealth and sensual pleasure.

I think most of us are raised with preconceived notions of the choices we're supposed to make. We waste so much time making decisions based on someone else's idea of our happiness - what will make you a good citizen or a good wife or daughter or actress. Nobody says, 'Just be happy - go be a cobbler or go live with goats.'

Let’s Go Fishing

Let’s Go Fishing

Luke 5:4-8
And when he had finished speaking, he said to Simon, “Put out into the deep and let down your nets for a catch.”And Simon answered, “Master, we toiled all night and took nothing! But at your word I will let down the nets.” And when they had done this, they enclosed a large number of fish, and their nets were breaking. They signaled to their partners in the other boat to come and help them. And they came and filled both the boats, so that they began to sink.

Peter was an experienced fisherman, and he knew when and where to fish. He understood the open waters and what it takes to be a good fisherman. But even with his expertise and experience, Peter and his crew had been out the whole night and they had not caught anything.

How frustrating can that be? There they were washing their nets wondering what the day would hold now that they had no catch to take to the market. They were not lazy, they were hard workers giving up their sleep while every other person rested for the night, and they were out working doing the best they knew how to do with no reward.

Maybe you feel like Peter today. You are a hard worker, you put in a full days work and you are good at what you do but at the end of the day or at the end of the month you have nothing much to show for it.

Jesus asks Peter for his boat and He wants it put out a bit into the sea, Peter gives without complaining though he has had a bad night and I bet he is tired with a lot on his mind but he still maintains a good attitude and serves the Lord! In the midst of your disappointment are you open to the Lord or are you complaining and lamenting?

Jesus, a carpenter’s son tells Peter and experienced fisherman who has been out the whole night and caught nothing to go out into the deep and lower the nets. There was a reason why Peter and his crew were fishing at night; I believe that was the best time to get a good catch and now here was Jesus telling them to go out during the day light.

Well I guess Peter must have thought, what is there to lose. So he did it. Imagine the work it took to set sail again and go back into the sea, imagine what the other fishermen must have thought but Peter did it anyway. The results? Uncommon favor.

They caught so much fish they had to call in others to help them bring it in. The fish was so much it was sinking their boat. The blessing was too much it was now becoming a disaster and unless they called in others to share the blessing, they might have lost it.

Peter recognizes that this has to be God, what he has just witnessed is a miracle. Your boat may be empty though you have worked hard the whole night. Look unto Jesus and do what He tells you to do no matter how ridiculous it may see. Your empty boat will be so full of blessings it will start sinking and you will have to call in others to help you haul it in!

If It's Loving That You Want

 If It's Loving That You Want

I want to let you know
That you don't have to go
Don't wonder no more
What I think about you

If it's loving that you want
Then you should make me your girl, your girl
If it's loving that you need
Baby come and share my world, share my world
If it's loving that you want
Then come and take a walk with me, walk with me
Cause, everything that you need, I got it right here baby, baby

Now it's obvious you need a friend to come hold you down
Be that one you share your everything when no one's around
Baby come tell me your secrets, and tell me all your dreams
'Cause I can see you need someone to trust
You can trust in me

So just call me whenever your lonely

I'll be your friend, I can be your homey

If it's loving that you want
Then you should make me your girl, your girl
If it's loving that you need
Baby come and share my world, share my world
If it's loving that you want
Then come and take a walk with me, walk with me
Cause, everything that you need, I got it right here baby, baby

It's been so long I've had this feeling
That we could be
Everything you've ever wanted baby
Your fantasy
I won't push too hard or break your heart
'Cause my love's sincere
I'm not like any other girl you know
So let me erase your fears


So just call me whenever your lonely

I'll be your friend, I can be your homey

If it's loving that you want
Then you should make me your girl, your girl
If it's loving that you need
Baby come and share my world, share my world
If it's loving that you want
Then come and take a walk with me, walk with me
Cause, everything that you need, I got it right here baby, baby

If it's loving that you want
Then you should make me your girl, your girl
If it's loving that you need
Baby come and share my world, share my world (I got what you need so come share my world)
If it's loving that you want
Then come and take a walk with me, walk with me
Cause, everything that you need, I got it right here baby, baby

So just call me whenever your lonely
I'll be your friend, I can be your homey


If it's loving that you want
Then you should make me your girl, your girl
If it's loving that you need
Baby come and share my world, share my world
If it's loving that you want
Then come and take a walk with me, walk with me
Cause, everything that you need, I got it right here baby, baby

I want to let you know
That you don't have to go
Don't wonder no more
What I think about you

What I think about you boy
I got what you need so come share my world 

Mpango wa kondom

Mpango wa Kondom

Nyamawi heart is very cold despite the January heat that had brought him to Essay’s house after continuous betrayal by Esther his children’s mother. He was watching Papa Shirandula together with his second first born as Essay was changing in the bed room. He was the one who insisted on being here to eat Pizza since dinner will be over by the time he gets to his house. Nyamawi was on phone with his colleague, from the conversation it was easy for this daughter to tell that he had bought them meet.”Nimekuja Kuosha gari but today it is expensive.”(I am cleaning my car).This was his explanation to both his wife and colleagues every time his Range Rover Sport was seen in this neighborhood. She now had a hint of what was in the colourfull round carton that was on the table. 

Nyamawi tried to escape this supper but had to buy it since he wanted to impress both mother and the daughter. He knew that Essay was preparing to impress him too. Anxiety was taking the better part of his body. This was long before Essay came out behind the curtain that was separating him from this nice view that he wanted so badly.  .He was having it in his mind and he was seeing it in the movements of the curtain. He reached out for a glass on the sideboard that was just next to his right hand. He served his take away soda to the curious girl who was now sad that the program was over and they were running advertisements that were delaying her favourite soap opera.He welcomed her to take the soda although it was a bit cold. She took the first sip of the cold drink and despite her age she knew this drink needed an accompaniment to reduce the coldness. “Uncle did you bring us meat today? When will mother cook it? I hope she will not ask me to go and play as you two prepare Nyama Choma. ”

He was just about to answer her when a sexy Essay appeared and told her daughter that the meat that uncle brought for them was ready to eat. Everything in Nyamawi confirmed that the food before him was ready to eat. Only that he did not know how to start with the glare of the girl. He looked at Essay in a way that was saying get rid of her. He was thinking that asking the girl to go to either go and play or join their neighbor was not possible. Before he bought this room a TV they used to tell the girl to go and watch TV at the neighbours place in the next door room.

This was Essay’s girl and she knew how to deal with her although most of the time she used her to deny him the only thing he wanted in the room. She exactly did this by washing their hands and opening the pizza fro them to eat. It was hard for the girl to ask any questions since she was warned on saying anything to Uncle wa Nyama the name they used when Nyamawi was away. Marcella, the girls name was borrowed from soap; this made the girl love watching all the movies that had her name. Nyamawi had talked to Essay about this kind of exposure but as usual, she said she was being a better and present mother than an absent father.

They each took a piece of what was in the box, Nyamawi understood what it was, Essay knew it was expensive and their daughter Marcella only tasted it. She did not like this particular meat so she just held to it. Nyamawi was eating too fast, the way he was supposed to eat. He was saving extra time to reward Essays extra dressing effort. Essay was getting too bold, she was regularly making Nyamawi bite her piece of pizza in a nice way. Nyamawi was getting concerned, he felt like he was being extra unfair to his second first born daughter. He was not supposed to be doing this in front of her. He asked Essay why Marcella was not eating. At this time Essay paid attention to her daughter, she had not been eating the one piece of pizza she had in her hand yet the rest were on their third piece.

“Mum why are you not eating?” Nyamawi asked in a genuine and fatherly way. The first time he has ever showed love to this girl. It was turning out to be a night of love, Essay took the next turn, she did not bark at her the way she used to. Maybe she took Nyamawi's advice.  She lovingly explained that the girl liked watching TV,”huyu motto anapenda sana kuona  sana watu wakikiss hata huwa anasahau kula.”(This girl likes watching TV especially when people are kissing she even forgets to eat.) Just then the main characters of the soap that these two grownups were ignoring started kissing and making out. It was too obvious that the girl’s eyes were glued on TV at this time. Thus Nyamawi whispered, “She is learning how to kiss.”

The girl talked to the mother, Nyamawi thought that she was going to respond to his whisper but she only said that she did not like the pizza. This time the mother took her normal tone and ordered the girl to eat. It is from their conversation that he learnt that the girl only took milk and cake at lunch from the nearby shop and that the mother was not going to cook anything else. She said she had already done her job, placing food on the table. Nyamawi knew that even the least of the opportunities she had to be part of Marcella’s life was being taken away. He also started to regret missing out a nice meal in his house. He consoled himself by taking a nice look at Essay; this confirmed that he was not going to leave this room with the same heat that he came with. The mother asked Marcella to eat and in exchange she would allow her to watch TV all night. Nyamawi smiled knowing that his one challenge had been solved. He asked to check on his car and give space to the other small cars and the neighbours’ motorbike can get parking space.

This gave the mother space to clear the take away bottles from the table while Marcella changed into warmer clothes as instructed .She was too excited to watch TV all night but was not aware that she was being asked to sleep on the couch. The mother ordered her to only watch Afro Cinema and not other grown up movies that they bring on other stations. She said it loud enough for Nyamawi to know that everything was ready. He was still outside and asked for more time to park the Range Rover nicely.  At this time an extra curtain was hanged just to block the girl from watching the second grown up movie. She already decided to watch the other movie now that she had permission to watch TV all night. However, the mother increased the volume of TV despite her plea that Afro Cinemas we loud and a small volume was enough. She knew what her mother was doing but pretended not to just she pretended she was not watching or  listening to her mother’s movies .Essay knew that the girl was aware of what was going on  behind the curtain  and she went an extra mile to protect her but on this night she was being too nice to them all. 

She thought she was destroying the woman that Nyamawi was talking to in the car. Just like Marcella, Esther knew what was going on but she decided to wait and act at the right moment. Nyamawi was taking long despites Essay’s pans that skipped utensils to cleaning at this time. She did this intentionally so as to deny Nyamawi time to say good night to Esther. However, it was extremely hard for Essay to get rid of her .Esther was always a kilometer ahead of her especially now that she was being loved over the phone. Essay went out to automatically end the conversation that Nyamawi was having. In the car she told Nyamawi that she wants to teach him how to kiss and in the house she would teach him less since the girl was around. Marcella interrupted this training by closing the windows. In the end she was saving other interruptions by mosquitoes that Nyamawi killed with his hands ever time and she hated it.

Essay got inside and convinced the girl that it was nice to watch TV with light off. She knew this would help in blurring the movie that the girl wanted to see clearly. Nyamawi took advantage and Explained to Esther that his phone went out of power and he was recharging it. With a friends charger. He finished this conversation by saying that he would come and fully charge the phone in the house. He asked her to keep food for him as he was very hungry. This will save him from two things, first the hunger since he believed that pizza n soda were snacks. Secondly it would take away time from his wife since he was sure that Essay was waiting for him by this time.

This is how Nyamawi did it, to ensure that neither Esther not his boss got to know of such a visit to this room. His boss never got to know of it since he was very busy with work, whenever he needed to clean his car he would avoid Nyamawi and use a cab. This night the boss already took a cab enabling Nyamawi to end up in Essay’s house, His boss and him they were both cleaning their cars another day they will both have an opportunity to service their vehicles.  

To this day Esther never understood who taught the other in terms of cleaning and servicing cars. Was it the foreigner who was exploring the country or was it her husband who introduced him to Kenyan women. Either way she had learnt to live with it, and was waiting for a good opportunity to explore. Only that everyone feared her for a reason that her husband was too rich. They never knew that the Range that was parked outside their house everyday was owned by another man, Nyamawi’s boss.

Nyamawi went straight to the bed, he assumed the girl since he did not know how to say good night to her. Yet he was afraid that the girl was not going to sleep. When he asked Essay about it, she removed her clothes. This made him to just go ahead and wish Essay a good night .all these time he even forgot that the girl was around. He only remembered her when Essay said that she must be asleep and took a leso to go and cover her.

All the time she was watching and listening to the two movies, she only closed her eyes when she heard that the mother was coming to cover her. She lovingly covered her; she even covered her with her trench court since it was cold. She was switching off the TV when Marcella pretended to be waking up and pleaded with her with a reminder of her specific promise of watching TV all night. Essay had to keep the promise but she reduced the TV volume for the sake of their neighbours. In her mind, she thought Nyamawi was sleeping but when asked Nyamawi answered honestly that he was too hungry to sleep. He said that Essay should have listened to him and cooked their supper. Essay hated this talk she decided to give him more training to be able to cope with the hunger. Marcella was just enjoying the two movies that Essay tried so hard to limit her from watching. She had waited for these for too long.