Joyful Farmer & the King

Joyful Farmer & the King. 

Once upon a time, there lived a King who, despite his luxurious lifestyle, was neither happy nor content.

One day, the King came upon a farmer who was singing happily while he worked. This fascinated the King; why was he, the Ruler of the Land, unhappy and gloomy, while a lowly farmer had so much joy.

The King asked the farmer, ‘Why are you so happy?’

The farmer replied, ‘Your Majesty, I am nothing but a farmer, but my family and I don’t need too much – just a roof over our heads and warm food to fill our tummies.’

The king was not satisfied with that reply. Later in the day, he sought the advice of his most trusted advisor. After hearing the King’s woes and the farmer’s story, the advisor said, ‘Your Majesty, I believe that the farmer Has not been made part of The 99 Company.’

‘The 99 Company? And what exactly is that?’ the King inquired.

The advisor replied, ’Your Majesty, to truly know what The 99 Company is, place 99 Gold coins in a bag and leave it at this servant’s doorstep.’

When the servant saw the bag, he took it into his house. When he opened the bag, he let out a great shout of joy… So many gold coins!

He began to count them. After several counts, he was at last convinced that there were 99 coins. He wondered, ‘What could’ve happened to that last gold coin? Surely, no one would leave 99 coins!’

He looked everywhere he could, but that final coin was elusive. Finally, exhausted he decided that he was going to have to work harder than ever to earn that gold coin and complete his collection.

From that day, the servant’s life was changed. He was overworked, horribly grumpy, and castigated his family for not helping him make that 100th gold coin. He stopped singing while he worked.

Witnessing this drastic transformation, the King was puzzled. When he sought his advisor’s help, the advisor said, ‘Your Majesty, the servant has now officially joined The 99 Company.’

He continued, ‘The 99 Company is a name given to those people who have enough to be happy but are never contented, because they’re always yearning and Striving for that extra 1, saying to themselves: ‘Let me get that one final thing and then I will be happy for life.’ We can be happy, even with very little in our lives, but the minute we’re given something bigger and better, we want even more! We lose our sleep, our happiness, we hurt the people around us; all these as a price for our growing needs and desires.

Steps to Emotional Healing:

Steps to Emotional Healing:
                                                                                                                                                                                     Offences can NEVER be avoided for as long as we are on this earth, but it is possible to work on ourselves such that we heal and guard our hearts from woundedness.
                                                                                                                                                                                       Psalms 34: 18 (ISV) “The Lord is close to the broken-hearted, and he delivers those whose spirit has been crushed”
God is still there with us even when we are wounded. He never leaves nor forsakes us. It is at this time when you realise you are wounded, that you need to draw closer to Him for comfort, edification and strengthening.
Healing is a deliberate process, requiring your full participation and engagement. There are some basic steps to this:

1. Analyse, analyse, analyse yourself. Have a meeting with yourself and acknowledge what is bothering you. Try as far as possible to find the root of the root. This is the most difficult part of the exercise of healing and in itself, is a very big step towards overall emotional healing. It doesn’t matter how difficult it is or how intense the experience may be, try as much as possible to thoroughly analyse yourself.

2. Pray for yourself. If say, you have found that you are easily angered and it is because of something that your father said to you eg “I don’t know how you are my child”…. Find the truth in scripture eg Jeremiah 1: 5 “Before I formed thee in the belly I knew thee; and before thou camest forth out of the womb I sanctified thee, and I ordained thee a prophet to the nations”. As you pray you decree this scripture over yourself and then pray for God to give you revelation of who you are in Him. Another thing about prayer is, the more time you spend speaking and communing with God, the more His attributes rub off on you. His love, peace, joy, everything about Him, you will begin to automatically experience, including HIS POWER to break yokes of emotional bondage.

3. Environment - Keep yourself in the best environment for your healing. For example if your conversations have been negative in nature, deliberately speak life. Always give others the benefit of the doubt. Whatever you feed yourself on, will become your world. Feed on things which have life, and life becomes your reality. Watch what you think on, listen to and speak about. Align everything. 

4. Get help – no man is an island. It will always help to have someone to speak to, share and fellowship with.  There is power in agreement with one another when it comes to healing.

James 5: 16 (ISV) “Therefore, make it your habit to confess your sings to one another and to pray for one another, so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective”.
copied from Lucy Kabui 

Prayer for Our Marriage

Prayer for Marriage
Father we thank you for our marriages. We thank you because you have put us together for the glory of your name. May we glorify you in our marriages this year. I pray that every husband will stand in his position as the head of the home, and do all that you have required of him as a husband.

I pray for every married woman represented here Lord. I pray that she too will take her position as a helper and do all that is required of her in accordance with your word in Jesus name.

I pray that couples will communicate better this year. That they will submit one to another, using the wisdom given to each one to build their marriage and their family. Increase in them love and honor for one another. Cause them to have a deep understanding of their spouse so that they can fit into each others lives with ease.

I pray for a spirit of humility so that they will repent to one another and forgive each other quickly and easily. Help them to live together with understanding and consideration, each one considering the other to be better than themselves. Help couples to put each other first, to rebuke and reject any outside influence that comes to cause chaos in the union, and to sift through all advice given so that they take the good and leave the bad.

Show each person their mistakes, and give them the grace to work on themselves to bring change. In Jesus name I rebuke and reject every spirit of strife, discord, and unforgiveness in my marriage and ask that Jesus be Lord of this marriage now and forever more.

We look forward to a wonderful year 2019, building our marriages on the rock, and becoming stronger and closer as a couple. In Jesus name I pray, Amen!

Guided by Nungari 

Are You In a Relationship RED FLAGS are here ....DO NOT IGNORE THEM

Are You In a Relationship RED FLAGS
 are here ....DO NOT IGNORE THEM

1. Lies
2. Anger control..outbursts
3. Violence
4. Lack of interest in your baby or babies
5. Crossing agreed  boundaries
6. Lack of basic courtesy
7. Unhealed emotional wounds
9. Never goes to (known) church
10. Reluctance to know his family or people
11. No idea where he works or lives
12. Talks ill or parents or relatives
13. Fishy background
14. Doesn't honour promises
15. Impatient
16. Brags and is proud..talks big of who he or she meets
17. Mean and hardly spends on you
18. Borrows money and never refunds
19. Disappears like an angel only to appear days or weeks later with explanations
20. Lies on academic or other qualifications or where they went to school
21. Mama's boy
22. Entertains exes and explains why s/he does that
23. Not polite to others eg cleaners or waiters
24. Evasive on questions
25. Busy all the time
26. Incompatible values
27. Insecure by your success
28. Violent on your kids
29. S/He never starts any communication you're the one who has to look for him or her
30. Manipulative
31. Blames you for his or her mistakes
32. Drama king or queen
33. Avoids being seen with you
34. Assumes so many things
35. Walks away to pick calls
36. His or her gadgets are a no go zone
37. Possessive and never wants to see you with anyone else
38. Threatens
39. Many friends of the opposite sex
40. Demands you go cook or clean to prove you're wife material.

FINANCIAL ADVICE 2019

FINANCIAL ADVICE

What can you do to reduce financial strain? A financial expert Dr Paul Kibicho advises.

1.       Choose sacco savings instead of bank

Why, you ask?

A.) When you take a loan from a Sacco, you are still saving, and you are still receiving dividends every year. If you take a loan with a bank, by the time you are paying it back, you will have no savings and you will pay interest on top of it with no residual value.

B.) When saving with a co-operative, they pay a benevolent fund if you die. They pay a certain amount for the funeral. The loan is also waived, but in addition to that, your family is given the amount of money equal two times the number of shares you had with them. The people you nominated will be given money according to the percentages you had indicated.

C.) You can also go for an emergency loan or a school fees loan that is cost friendly. They charge one per cent interest per month, at a reducing balance.
D.) While banks ask for a loan collateral like a title, share certificate or log book of your car , saccos only ask for guarantors.

2. Re-consider your school fees paying method

You do not have to pay school fees termly. Visit the school and negotiate with the principal so that you can agree on paying monthly instead of at the beginning of every term. You can also have an education fund for your children. There are institutions that take care of this. In my case, I have already paid my children’s school fees up to form four, so I will never have to have a funds drive in case of anything. By the end of it you may actually get a refund of some of your money, like I was given a refund of Sh19,000 when my daughter finished school at Limuru Girls and another refund of Sh22,000 when she finished school at Daystar University.

3. Other than savings, have an emergency fund

It is better to have an umbrella you do not require, than to require an umbrella you do not have. Anything can happen, especially on a single income. Access to medical care in Kenya is very expensive. If you get sick and require to be admitted to the Intensive Care Unit or High Dependency Unit for example, the minimum deposit just for admission is Sh400,000. You need to have a medical scheme, or at the very least be under the National health Insurance Fund (NHIF). It has been repackaged to cater for treatment even abroad and their premiums are pocket-friendly.

4.       Significantly tame your bills

Want ideas?

Small things like leaving your lights on and powering luxury appliances means having an extra unnecessary expenditure. Avoid having ‘extra’ people in your house. You should not have a comfortable guest room. In fact, it should have a very thin mattress so that they are not tempted to stay more than one night. Guests are an extra expense.

If you have to take your family for a holiday, go during the lowest seasons. You can find accommodation in Mombasa that goes for Sh30,000 per night going for as low as Sh6,000 per night. Avoid competition with others in life. Do not keep moving homes.

Avoid renting if you can. It is better to be going to work  from your own house in Kamulu than from a rented home in Runda.

Do not rack up your phone charges by talking on the phone unnecessarily. Don’t call everyone back.

Avoid impulse buying. Carry a shopping list and stick to it religiously because it controls your buying behaviour.

5.       You must have life insurance

On a single income, only one person is the breadwinner. If that person dies, if they had life insurance, that insurance replaces the income that the breadwinner was bringing in for the family members. Without it, your family will be left in a very dire situation.

6.      Create extra income

Robert Kiyosaki says, “It is more important to grow your income than cut your expenses. It’s more important to grow your spirit that cut your dreams.” The greatest disservice you can do to yourself is to continue relying on that one source of income. What if it, too, suddenly gets cut off? Where does that leave you? Only poor people oversleep. If you go on the road at 4AM you will see Prados, Landcruisers, and other big cars. At 6AM is when you start seeing the Proboxes and Vitzes. That should show you how early wealthy people wake up. When did you last see Bob Collymore trapped in traffic? If you have an 8 to 5 job, what are you doing between 6 and 8? Do poultry rearing, get a dairy cow – anything it takes to get an extra income during your extra hours.

7.       Utilise your energy levels

Between the age of 0 to 25, you were a non-producer but a consumer and were taken care of by your parents.

Between 25 to 60, you become a producer, by earning your own living, but you are still a consumer. Because your energy levels are high, this should be your prime earning time, but most people consider it their prime eating time. This is also when you have added responsibility due to marriage. Between 60 to 100, you become a non-producer but you are still a consumer. A wise person would be relying on the investments they had made during their prime earning time and not their children. Have retirement plans  for your old age.

8.       Manage your debts

Do not keep borrowing without a plan. Let the money you borrow go to its intended purpose immediately. Do not keep it in the bank. When you do this, needs arise and you end up using it for those needs. Only have debts that have meaningful consumption. Do not take loans for home improvement. That is a want, not a need.

9.   Be open about your earnings

Many people hide their payslips from their non-working spouses, which is a recipe for familial disaster. Show your spouse what you earn to avoid domestic problems, failure to which can mean spending more money down the road as you try to resolve problems between you. Being open about your earnings also means being honest if you cannot afford some of the family’s wants (not needs). Do not take debt to cover unnecessary costs. Living on debt means that you are treading on water, and this means that you will eventually sink and drown.  Spend wisely and spend less than you earn.

Truly A Happy New Year 2019

CITAM VALLEY ROAD
THE YEAR'S THEME:NOT BY MIGHT NOR BY POWER BUT BY THE SPIRIT OF THE LORD

NEW YEAR'S MESSAGE 2019

SEVEN WAYS TO HAPPINESS

Bishop Dr. David Oginde

A true happy year does not come by one crossing the year. A crossover does not make a happy new year.

So how to truly have a happy new year.
The bible has shows us many ways of enjoying and experiencing  this .

Philippians 4:2-9
1.Release your enemies
2.Reconcile with others
3.Rejoice in the Lord always
4.Respect Everyone
5.Relax
6.Refocus your thinking
7.Redirect your walk


1. RELEASE YOUR ENEMIES
 To enjoy a peaceful life you must release your enemies
One of a sure thing to rob you off your happiness is disagreement.
The closer that person is to you in relationship is worse it becomes.
The faster you release that person and forgive them the better and more you will enjoy the new year. Get rid of any form of anger,bitterness,resentment.

2. RECONCILE WITH YOUR FRIENDS AND RELATIVES
Even if you are not directly involved in the issue you will still not be able to enjoy your year
Reconcile others so that in their  peace you will have peace.
Don't add fuel
Don't take sides be a peace maker.

3. REJOICE IN THE LORD ALWAYS
The secret to enjoy is to rejoice always
The new is going to come with its own challenges but it's rather to take it up with a positive attitude
Psalm 118:24
This is the day that the Lord has made I will rejoice and be glad in it.
It's possible to face each day with joy.
Be places where people are positive, enjoy laughter, laugh.
Why are you disfigured while Jesus face was disfigured on your behalf

4. RESPECT EVERYONE
We are to be gentle with everyone, be kind
Prov 15:1
How you respond to people matters .
You can't enjoy life while you are fighting with everyone around you.
Let your gentleness be seen by Everyone

5. RELAX
DO not be anxious about anything but with prayer and petition let your request be known unto the Lord and the peace of God will guard your heart.
And you will enjoy a happy new year.
Things that Rob us joy are anxiousness and worry

6. REFOCUS YOUR THINKING
Whatever is pure, trust worthy ......
If you consistently see the positive you will be positive the opposite is true
Always be in the positive.
Your perspective to life will determine the kind of  life you will have .
The son of Hannah is called Samuel the sons of Peninah we have no idea.
When the Lord comes through you will have a name

Five ways through which thoughts enter our minds ,  ie touching, seeing, tasting , hearing and smelling but two are very significant seeing and hearing so be careful what you see and hear. They are very powerful.

7. REDIRECT YOUR WALK
Paul says Whatever you have heard or seen, received, learnt put that into practice 
The God of peace will be with you.

Peace brings happiness, when you have peace you can enjoy life.

We have the peace of God and the God of peace .

Silence and Peace

A seed grows with no sound, but a tree falls with huge noise… Destruction has noise, but creation is silent. In your success remain silent as there is power in silence. Grow Silently!
Cultivate Silence

A farmer discovered that he had lost his watch in the barn. It was no ordinary watch because it had sentimental value for him.

After searching high and low among the hay for a long while; he gave up and enlisted the help of a group of children playing outside the barn. He promised them that the person who found it would be rewarded.

Hearing this, the children hurried inside the barn, went through and around the entire stack of hay but still could not find the watch.

Just when the farmer was about to give up looking for his watch, a little boy went up to him and asked to be given another chance.

The farmer looked at him and thought, “Why not? After all, this kid looks sincere enough.” So the farmer sent the little boy back in the barn.

After a while the little boy came out with the watch in his hand! The farmer was both happy and surprised and so he asked the boy how he succeeded where the rest had failed.

The boy replied, “I did nothing but sat on the ground and listened. In the silence, I heard the ticking of the watch and just looked for it in that direction.”

A peaceful mind can think well than a worked up mind.

Sometimes the noise in our life is so much with no clarity on what to do. The mind seems so occupied with lots of thoughts that promotes fear, discouragement & anxiety.

Let peace guard your heart this last Month of the year. Consciously clear your head and mind. God bless you.

Family Prayers ; Men, women, Children

[6:41 PM, 11/30/2018] Nungari Single Parent: 3 DAYS OF PRAYER AND FASTING FOR THE FAMILY: Day 1

The role of the man in the family is not just as the head, but like Christ, he is the Shepherd of his home.  One of the strategies of the enemy is to strike the shepherd and by so doing scatter the family so that he gains access to its little ones – the children.  Zechariah 13:7 says, "…Strike the shepherd, and the sheep will be scattered, and I will turn my hand against the little ones.” Let us begin these three days of fasting by praying for the heads of the home.

1) Thank God for the men as heads of the family.  It is the will and plan of God for the man to have this authority.  Acknowledge it and pray that the men in your life – Father, Brother, Uncles, Spouse- will take their place of authority to serve God in their families with humility, with fear and with trembling, for they shall one day give an account of how they led their families before God. 1 Corinthians 11:3, Romans 14:12, Ephesians 5:23

2) Pray that the men will fear God and will cultivate a relationship with him.  How can they lead godly families when they do not have a relationship with God? How can they walk uprightly when they do not have the fear of God? How will they train up their children in the fear and admonition of the Lord, when they do not have it themselves? Pray for their Spiritual lives that they will live again and love and serve the Lord with all their hearts.  Joshua 24:15, Genesis 18:19, Luke 10:27.

3) Pray that the man will understand his role.  That a revelation will dawn on him of what God has called him to be within the family unit.  That he will understand that he is a steward of a sacred trust given by God.  To lead a family after the ways of the Lord and to raise for God a godly offspring. Malachi 2:15

4) Pray 1 Timothy 3:2-4 over the man.  That he will be above reproach, faithful to his wife, temperate, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach, not given to drunkenness, not violent but gentle, not quarrelsome, not a lover of money. That he will manage his own family well and see that his children obey him, and he must do so in a manner worthy of full respect.

5) Pray 1 Peter 5:2-4 in the context of family with the husband as the shepherd and his family as his flock.  “Be shepherds of God’s flock that is under your care, watching over them—not because you must, but because you are willing, as God wants you to be; not pursuing dishonest gain, but eager to serve;  not lording it over those entrusted to you, but being examples to the flock.  And when the Chief Shepherd appears, you will receive the crown of glory that will never fade away.”

6) Pray prayers of protection over the heads of families that God will protect them from the plans of the evil one.  Pray Psalm 91 over them. 

7) Pray for them, that they will not fall into various kinds of temptation (Matthew 26:41, Luke 22:46, Mark 14:38).  Even the most upright of men can fall under the onslaught of well-crafted temptation to sin.

8) Pray specific prayers as you are led of the Lord.
[6:41 PM, 11/30/2018] Nungari Single Parent: 3 DAYS OF PRAYER AND FASTING FOR THE FAMILY: Day 2

Our prayer focus today is the woman. Women were near and dear to the heart of Jesus Christ.  Not only did he minister to them (John 4) and allow them to minister to him (Matt 26:7) even when it was controversial, he had many of them in his ministry who travelled with him and helped to support the work of the Kingdom (Luke 8:1-3, Mark 15:40-41). 

Women are special because they have the ability to nurture things, to incubate them until they birth or see the results.  That is why women are such awesome prayer warriors.  That is why they hang on to their marriages and fight tooth and nail for their restoration.  That is why they hold on to wayward kids and pray them through until they walk the narrow path.  No wonder Hebrews 11:35 specifically talks of women who received back their dead, raised to life again.  Women have immovable, unshakable faith in the living God, and they eat the fruits of that faith. Hallelujah!

1) Let us thank God for the woman today.  If you have found a wife, give God glory for her.  You have found a good thing, and obtained favor with God (Prov 18:22).  If she is a woman of faith, her worth is far above rubies.  She is a gem.  Lift up a high praise for the women in your life – Your mother, aunties, sisters, girlfriends, female cousins, daughters etc…

2) Pray that women will understand their position within the family and will accept the order of God by submitting to their husbands (1 Corinthians 11:3).  Jesus gave the ultimate example of submission (Philippians 2), although equal to God the Father, as woman is equal to man, he did not consider that equality as something to be grasped at. He didn’t create a power struggle and say, “I am just as much God as you are!”  Instead he humbled himself and submitted himself to the Father, and as a result God lifted him up and gave him a place at his right hand.  We too, must follow his example and take our rightful place as women, without grasping for the place of headship in the family.

3) Pray that the woman will understand her role.  That she will get a revelation of her purpose as a wife and run with it.  That she will understand what it means to be a helper (Genesis 2:18)…one who comes alongside to help.  That she will learn from the only other one termed as a helper in the Bible– the Holy Spirit, what it means to help. John 14:16 (Amplified Bible) breaks down that word helper to mean – comforter, counselor, intercessor, advocate, strengthener, and standby.

4) Pray that women will receive the wisdom needed to build their houses in every situation, and through every phase of growth (Proverbs 14:1, James 1:5).  Trouble will come (John 16:33), it is inevitable, but with God on your side you will overcome it.  Build on the rock Jesus Christ and when the storms of life come – and they will come, your house will be left standing (Matt 7:24-27)

5) Pray Titus 2:4-5 over the women “That they may… be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.”

6) Pray that they too will not fall into various kinds of temptations and that they will be protected against the wiles of the enemy. Matthew 26:41, Luke 22:46, Mark 14:38, Psalm 91

7) Pray that the Lord will renew their strength for the journey ahead. Pray that every woman represented here and present in your life will soar like an eagle with renewed grace for every situation she finds herself in. (Nehemiah 8:10, Isaiah 40:31)
[6:42 PM, 11/30/2018] Nungari Single Parent: 3 DAYS OF PRAYER AND FASTING FOR THE FAMILY: Day 3

Today we turn our attention to our children, our nieces and nephews, children under our charge for those who are entrusted with children as part of their job or their ministry etc… We have a sacred responsibility to raise our children up in the ways of the Lord.  From the moment a child can begin to comprehend and understand stories, we need to begin to teach them the Word of God.  Samuel was taken to the temple at the age of about 3 years when his priestly training began.  Jesus by the time he was 12 could debate the word of God at a level that astounded the teachers of the law.  That speaks a lot about his parents Mary and Joseph.  They raised him up in the word of God!  We must do the same.

1. Give thanks for the children God has entrusted to you. However they came into the world, the word is clear that children are a blessing from the Lord.  In fact it calls them a gift and a reward (Psalm 127:3)

2. Claim them for the Kingdom of God.  Jesus said to let the little children come to him for the Kingdom belongs to such as they (Matt 19:14).  In addition teach them the Kingdom that they belong to, and do your best to have them accept Jesus as Lord at an early age.

3. Ask the Holy Spirit to teach your children about God.  As you teach them the ways of the Lord, the Holy Spirit will also be speaking to them and turning their little hearts towards God.  Isaiah 54:13 says that your children shall be taught of God!

4. Speak the shalom of God over their lives.  That they will be fully satisfied in every area and that God will give them rest all round.  Isaiah 54:13 says great shall be the shalom of your children – nothing missing, nothing broken.  1 Kings 5:4 – rest on every side without adversary or disaster.

5. Pray that they shall be children who honor father and mother and therefore receive long life from the hand of God (Exodus 20:12)

6. Pray that they shall have obedient hearts – To obey their parents and other authorities, and to obey God whole heartedly (Ephesians 6:1, Prov 6:20, 1 Kings 2:3)

7. Pray that as you train them up in the ways of the Lord, they shall not depart from them (Prov 22:6)

8. Pray that your children shall fear God because that is wisdom, and wisdom is the principle thing. (Prov 9:10-12, Prov 4:7)

9. Pray for their protection – Psalm 91.  We can’t always watch them, but God can.  Entrust them to his care

10. Plead the blood of Jesus over them.

God and I -Letting Go and Letting God

30th November 2018

God and I -Letting Go and Letting God – Father and Daughter  

I have lost it in love

I am lonely because I lack direction

I lost my vision

and followed an erection

I declare that I am raised, revived, refreshed,

I desire to live in Gods perfect plan for me

I commit my desire for family to him

I surrender everything to him

I choose to look up, So that I can get up

I start by forgiving me

I ask God for forgiveness

I ask that he showers me with unfailing love

I have forgiven them, for the frustrations

I remove bitterness and anger

I retain my dream and my desires

I let go and let God

I put now in my heart

His word and his commandments

I am walking in Gods way, away from sins

I put God a my anchor

I am assured of Gods everlasting Love

As I wait my strength is renewed

God is building me

I feel a new thing is happening to me

I Surrender to Him

How easy is it to surrender to the Lord?

Surrender is one of those topics that nobody ever wants to talk about, especially in the context of Christianity. Reason? Nobody wants to let God have full control over their lives, for fear that things will not go their way. In fact, for most people, as long as there is an available solution to a problem, surrendering it to God is the last thing on their minds. In my case, there have been several moments when I have surrendered as a last resort – out of desperation! My question to all of us is, however, is that how God requires us to surrender to Him?

I should surrender to Him as an act of worship

Romans 12:1 “And so, dear brothers and sisters, I plead with you to give your bodies to God because of all he has done for you. Let them be a living and holy sacrifice—the kind he will find acceptable. This is truly the way to worship him.” (NLT)

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Picture this. Your car breaks down as you head home from a late function. It is dark and there are no other motorists in sight. Suddenly you see this car come slowly towards you, and as you watch, it stops right in front of you. As the occupants get out, you panic, only to recognize them as people who work in the same office block as you. They volunteer to stay with you until help arrives, and after you get home, call to make sure you are safe and sound. Wouldn’t you be eternally grateful to them?

Jesus did more than just get us out of a scary situation, he gave us the opportunity to be free from eternal damnation by giving himself on the cross for us. Because of him, we no longer face eternal separation from God; rather, we can look forward to spending eternity in his presence.

How, then, do we express our gratitude to God for this wonderful gift? By giving ourselves to him in total surrender – letting him have our bodies and our lives to use for his glory. Though giving yourself totally to him seems difficult, think about how hard it must have been for him to leave his throne in heaven to die such a painful death.

I should surrender to Him because I belong to Him

1 Corinthians 6:19-20 “Don’t you realize that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself, for God bought you with a high price. So you must honor God with your body.” (NLT)

There it is again – the mention of that steep price that Christ paid for us. Once we accept the gift of salvation for which he gave his life, we become his children. His spirit lives in us and we experience renewed fellowship with God.

How expensive was God’s gift to us? Jesus, though he was the Son of God, gave up all that he had to come to earth, experience life as a mortal, and eventually, go through a horrific death on the cross for our sake. He really didn’t have to go through all that, but he did, out of love for us.

Think about an item that you have longed to purchase for ages. When you finally get the money together for the final payment, how do you feel? You walk confidently into the shop, hand over the money and receive the item. You pay for the item, and it becomes yours – it is now up to you to take good care of it.

Similarly, when Jesus paid the price for us, we became his, and it was now up to him and His Father to take good care of us. Surrendering to the Lord, therefore, means handing over your life to him, and letting him take care of you. After all, he created you, and he knows what he has planned for your life!

I should surrender to Him just like Jesus did

Jesus shows us the perfect example of surrender when he utters the words below.

Luke 22:42 “Father, if you are willing, please take this cup of suffering away from me. Yet I want your will to be done, not mine.” (NLT)

Jesus knew what pain awaited him on the cross, yet he still went ahead to obey his Father. Why? Because he had surrendered to his Father’s will. Though what lay ahead was painful and would result in his death, Jesus still went forth in obedience to his Father.

What would you do if you were in Jesus’s shoes? Come up with another plan of action perhaps? Or maybe try to strike a deal with God? Faced with the same situation, I am not sure I would be as ready as Jesus was to obey!

Surrendering to God’s will is not always easy, especially where pain, disappointment, and even death are part of the package. I find that the hardest part behind surrender is not knowing and being in control of what lies ahead. It takes true faith and trust in the Lord to surrender to him completely – to say, “let your will be done, not mine.”

There is a wonderful end to Jesus’s story of surrender. He died, yes, but after he rose again and spent some a few days on earth with disciples, he ascended into heaven and returned to his place with his Father. His story of surrender is a great lesson for us – though we may not know or understand what lies ahead at the point of surrender, we can trust God to work things out for our good, and for his glory!

ON MARRIAGE.

ON MARRIAGE. 
Let's look at the deepest needs of the spouses in marriage, and how to meet them. They are found in Ephesians 5:33. It says "However each one of you must love his wife as he loves himself and the wife must respect her husband." These is the deepest desire of each spouse and therefore the sure root of a marriage. A marriage is as weak or as strong as each "feels" this needs met. The husband, who is a male and a man craves RESPECT above all else.To be HONOURED. Many make the mistake of thinking the husband's greatest need is sex! NO. The wife , who is a female and woman, her greatest need is to be LOVED. To be CHERISHED. Emotional connection. Many think a wife's greatest need is money. NO. She craves to be loved in ways she appreciates. Not in ways that the husband appreciates! And often, the two in marriage can wrongly use their position to manipulate and blackmail. This can be subtle especially among newly weds. But it is cruel and always back fires. Wives, often, without biblical evidence, claim respect must be earned. Look at Ephesians 5:33.."MUST respect." Husbands' too feel the wife should earn their love! That's unfair. "MUST love" . The stalemate is often "who will start"? My advice is. Let the maturer one start. But first be DEEPLY FEED and CARED FOR by CHRIST according to Ephesians 5:29!

Husbands: Your wife should not live like a widow while you are still alive.

Your wife should not live like a widow while you are still alive.

Husbands: Being the head of the household means work, duty, and great responsibility. The head of the household is the one responsible for everything that happens in the family. You cannot enjoy the privileges of headship and not be willing to shoulder the responsibilities that come with it. You can’t franchise, subcontract or outsource your husband responsibilities and not hurt your wife and marriage. You are accountable to God for the physical and spiritual welfare of your family. Make your wife’s life easier by carrying all your responsibilities dutifully. Your wife was not created to play her role and yours at the same time. Your wife should not live like a widow while you are still alive. You are the CEO, you are the Priest, Provider and Protector of the family. Therefore be involved. Be present. Take charge. Work hard. Pray, plan and execute. Remember your wife is your “suitable helper” not the other way round. Let your wife thank God that she is married to you.MARRIAGE IS BLESSED

Let’s Connect My Love

Let’s Connect My Love

I am the Good thing

That you need right now

I am the Key

To unlock your destiny

Keep your key

Safe for my wedding night

I am the best

With you, with our families

For the best marriage

Your family

That we shall honour

Every day forever

I am whole, Not a whore

I am your way

To attain Gods favour

I am your crown

Darling your prayers are answered

You are my king, honour your queen

Bebs Lets Connect

SOUL TIES

SOUL TIES

Do you know SEXUAL SIN is one of the major silent killer of MANY DREAMS,  UNENDING DEBTS and lack of FINANCIAL BREAKTHROUGH? 

SOUL TIES are invisible bonds that wreck havoc in many relationships today.
Sexual activity is one of the most harmful activities on earth.

Every time we have Sex outside the confines of marriage we create deep rooted bonds with the other individual

That's why you left your boyfriend got born again but from time to time he still visits for conjugal rights and you are helpless before him or her.

Every time sexual activity (not necessarily penetration) takes place the brain produces a chemical called dopamine, it's called the feel good chemical but it binds two people together

A soul tie doesn't get broken by saying I do
A wedding ceremony is not enough to make your past sexual sins to disappear

Soul ties are the reasons why people don't move on. This is the reason you keep on recycling negative relationships even years down the road.

You are born again, but you still have hangovers from your past sexual activities

Man was created in three parts, body, soul and spirit
The soul and spirit live in a tent called the body

Soul is the part that holds the life principle. It's the seat of emotions, will and moral action.

1Peter 2:11, beloved I beg as pilgrims abstain from fleshly lust which war against the soul

When you have premarital sex you share your soul with your partner.
The deepest soul tie is forged when people become one flesh

It's called commingling of souls in the spiritual realm. When souls mingle spirits are transferred too

These spiritual bonds are highly demonic. The devil gets a legal ground to frustrate you sexually. The other party is free to enslave you emotionally.

When you have many sexual partners the bonds graduate to spiritual bridges

1Corinthians 6:16, or do you not know that he who is joined to a harlot is one body with her? For the two He says shall become one flesh

Whenever sexual sin happens you open your self to a curse

The knitting of two souls can bring tremendous destruction

God designed the universe to function with natural and spiritual laws that bring freedom when obeyed and bring bondage and destruction when broken or violated.

That pleasure you enjoy for five minutes can bring you a lifetime bondage.

The world takes premarital Sex very casually but I tell you it's a very serious affair in the spiritual realm. It's not as simple as the devil puts it.

Proverbs 5:20 for why should you my son be enraptured by an immoral woman and be embraced in the hands of a seductress?

Genesis 34:1-3, now Dinna the daughter of Leah, went out to see the daughters of the land and when shechem saw her he took her and lay with her and violated her, his soul was STRONGLY attached to Dinna.........

So today you are praying for a good godly marriage the question is are you single in the first place? Many people are single in the physical but polygamous in the spirit

It's time for spiritual divorce

SIGNS OF A LINGERING SOUL TIE
Someone whose voice you hear in your head many years after you had sex with them
Obsessive daytime or nighttime thoughts about someone
Dreaming or waking up thinking about your former sex partner at regular basis
Dreaming having sex with the person
The inability to forget the sexual experience even now that you are born again. You still remember the details

Confession of faith does not overrule history. If you are bound you need to pray for God to deliver you.

Haven't you seen anointed brothers who preach and prophesy powerfully but they cannot control their sexual appetite. They even cry and confess after the act, they fast and go back to the same sin.

It's good to be a good student of history and prophecy. When you want finish a tree don't trim it uproot it by its roots

Do you come from a polygamous family? Break the generational curse, do you come from a broken home do the same

Ignorance is no defense. Joshua pronounced a curse upon Jericho, but sometimes later a man called Haiel who didn't know what Joshua had said decided to rebuild the cities of Jericho and he paid the price by loosing two of his sons. He didn't know history and he paid for it ignorantly. God had to raise Prophet Elisha to santify Jericho.
Joshua 6:26
I kings 16:34

If you find yourself struggling with the same issues including sexual issues like your forefathers ask God to deliver you, it's a bondage

I pray for you  that what finished your forefathers will not finish you in Jesus Name.

Soul ties should be broken because they represent unholy Union preventing the soul from enjoying the freedom that Jesus gave us.

They cause you to feel emotionally empty.

God will restore us. Flee away (don't run) from sexual immorality. Don't abuse God's grace. Repentance means total change. When David sinned during repentance he told God, take away this heart and give me a new one. In other terms I turn away completely from sin

You might say God will always be there to forgive my question is one, will you always be here? Time is in the hands of God. Hell is real, don't allow a few minutes of pleasure cost you for eternity.

Bondage is not what binds you its what you are not willing to release to be free.

1.Acknowledge that you sinned
2.confess the sin and repent
3.break the soul tie

e. g, Lord Jesus I am sorry for fornicatting with Mark, I repent my sins

By the power of the blood of Jesus I break every unholy tie that exists between mark and I. I release my soul from his soul.

I reject any effect of our union that continues to bind us together. I forgive Mark in Jesus Name, Mark you are free from me

Any demonic spirits that were transferred to me during intercourse I reject you now, come out of me in Jesus Name. You will not have any effect in my future marriage

I shut any doorway of demonic access opened in my life by the ungodly soul tie or any other sort of sexual sin. Jesus I ask you to seal the doorways by your precious blood.

Lord I now stand single in the spiritual realm, bless me with a partner that I may enjoy marriage. Help me to stay Holy for the sake of my eternity in Jesus Name

Sexual sins are many, lesbianism, bestiality, pornography, homosexuality, phone sex, Sex texting and all ungodly sexual practices, but if you have ever had a sexual activity with God's servant you need total repentance. That's the equivalent of getting into God's supermarket and stealing a litter of oil. It doesn't matter who was at fault, FLEE SEXUAL SIN, IT'S DEADLY

How can a young man stay pure

Psalm 119:11, your word have I hidden in my heart that I may not sin against you

Killing the flesh by feeding the spiritual man, fasting is key

Avoiding spiritual window shopping when looking for a spouse

1corinthians 6:18-20,Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body or do you not know that your is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you.........

Proverbs 6:32, whoever commits adultery with a woman lacks understanding, he who does so destroys his own SOUL

1corinthians 6:9-10..... Do not be deceived, neither fornicators, nor idolaters nor adulterers nor homosexuals nor sodomies...... Will inherent the Kingdom of God

I want us to conclude the topic on soul ties so that we move on to courtship.

I believe you took time to free yourself in the spirit. Prayer is very key to a believer

Those of you who got children out of wedlock, you need to do restitution (if you are a man), forgive even the unforgivable, break the soul ties and move on in a Godly way

God is holy and he has a standard, don't allow the world to give you their standard

What God hates, we hate it too. guard your heart zealously for out of it flows the issues of life

After breaking a soul tie go ahead and renounce every vow that you made.
Like I have heard sisters saying "oh I will never find another man like him"

"If it's not her I would rather be single. "who bewitched you Saints?

Proverbs 21:23,whoever guards his mouth and tongue keeps his SOUL from trouble

Final stage is destroying the gifts that act as a point of contact in the realm.

You are born again now, why are still keeping innerwares, cards etc etc that you got from Egypt. Becoming a new creature simply means becoming new, show us the fruits of your change

Now rededicate yourself body and soul to the LORD. e. g Lord Jesus receive me again, I belong to you, my whole being belongs to you. I need your grace not to sin in this manner again

Galatians 5:1 stand fast therfore in the liberty by which Christ has made us free and do not be entangled again with a YOKE OF BONDAGE

Titus 2:11,for the grace of God that brings salvation has appeared to all men teaching    us to say NO TO ALL  AND WORDLY LUSTS....
SEXUAL IMMORALITY IS DEADLY

--The truth about sex must be told and preached in all churches worldwide.The reality is that people especially holiness preachers don't talk about (sex) at all.
--Whenever (sex) is mentioned, then people get offended and begin to murmur and make negative comments about it.
~~Yet those people are the very personalities living in one sexual sin or
the other.
--There is no way any holiness preacher can
preach true holiness to God's satisfaction
without teaching the pew about their sexuality, the careless use of sex, and the dangers involved and assume all will be well.
--People need to be enlightened about the sin that has dominated the age.
~~The sin that has
captured the youths in the church, the sin that has brought teenage pregnancies and abortions.
--There is something both the aged and the
infant do not know anything about. The church also has closed her eyes on this particular issue. Nobody wants to talk about it but it is very real.
--In case you are not aware my brethren, I want to tell you that:
SEXUAL IMMORALITY
Is the last bullet the kingdom of darkness has
thrown against the church of GOD, and the church is wounded very sore that there seems to
be no cure or remedy.
--I want to make it so clear and not in jargons or vocabularies that, you cannot count the number of people who go to church and proclaim
the NAME of GOD , that are still living in immorality. They may either be suffering from
lust, masturbation, pornography, adultery, incest, homosexual, and lesbianism, sodomy,
bestiality and many more which time will fail me to mention.
--Hardly will you come across a young lady who has not been misused by 'so called boyfriends'.
And every guy is now dating because of sex. GOD is watching all those that are having sex with people they haven't married.
--It's a headache for GOD seeing his own created people perishing in a sin called sexual
immorality.
--How many young men today in the
church can you count and point fingers at that
fornication has not pulled down?
--A pastor slept with his junior pastor's wife,
impregnated her, and used the name of GOD to defend himself that it was GOD who instructed
him to do so.
--If (sex) that is supposed to be between husband and wives only, is now between father
and daughter in the church, do I need to tell
you there is fire on the mountain??
--If (sex) that is only legalized between a man
and his wife, is now between a guy and his girlfriend, do you need angels to come and sound the warning against sexual immorality?
--If (sex) that is a sacred thing in marriage has become a desecrated thing in dating, what else do you want before you prepare the way of
the LORD??
★ Hebrews 13:4 Marriage is honourable in all,
and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and
adulterers God will judge.
◆PASTOR, WHY ARE YOU Quiet???
--Cry aloud, spare not. And tell the house of Jacob their sins, and Israel their transgressions
. (Isaiah 58:1).
--Pastor why are you not crying aloud?! Why
are you so mute like ELI ??
◇Heaven is shedding tears over the perishing souls every day and you are there raising funds every Sunday to build bigger auditorium
(Ezek.18:23).
--You call your members for anointing services
and prayer meetings without urging sin out of
them.
--Some are living together with men that did not pay any dowry on them.
--Some commit abortions and cover it up.
--Some are lesbians and homosexuals .
--What are you doing about that??
--Where has the WORD OF GOD that says "flee
fornication" gone to in your Bible?(1st
Cor.6:18).
-- From henceforth, if you don't take this
warning and start declaring war against this strange spirit that has taken over the church, you'll have questions to answer. (Acts.19:13-15).
--And to those who claim they love holiness messages with negligence to this particular truth
about sex have actually missed the mark.
◆AND YOU! CHURCH MEMBER
To be active in church and still be committing
immorality, GOD is watching you. (Heb.4:13).
--To be a child of GOD and still having a boyfriend or girlfriend indulging pre marital affairs, GOD is watching you.
--To be a choir member or youth leader and still be doing what the married are doing, if u like continue.
◇◇YOUR GROUP MEMBERS NEED THIS MESSAGE.
◇◇YOUR FRIENDS AND ENEMIES ALSO NEED IT.
◇◇KEEP SHARING UNTIL IT SAVE A SOUL FROM THE BONDAGE, AND DANGER OF HELL FIRE, AND GOD WILL BLESS YOU FOR THAT IN JESUS NAME.
★ 2nd Corinthians 7:1 Having therefore these
promises, dearly beloved, let us cleanse ourselves
from all filthiness of the flesh and spirit, perfecting holiness in the fear of God.

THE WOMAN'S CODE FOR DAILY LIVING

THE WOMAN'S CODE FOR DAILY LIVING

1. I am a woman, that means I nurture. Anything that I engage in: My work, my relationship, marriage, parenthood; I will bring out the best, I will make grow

2. I am a woman, that means I inspire. My voice will not be used for gossip, slander or tearing down but to give hope, to encourage, to make others and myself believe

3. I am a woman, that means I am resourceful. I will not waste my years playing the victim crying how unfair the world is to women. I will not listen to the lies that say a woman can't. I will not live off a man's wealth or chase after sponsors. I will work hard, make my own, contribute; be an asset, not a dependent

4. I am a woman, that means I am sacred. My body I will protect. I will not just let anyone touch me. I will not partner with a man or men so that they may use me. I will not give out my body so that I get a promotion in my career or money. I will not cheat on my man, my husband. My nakedness and sexuality is top precious

5. I am a woman, that means I am strong. I will not be intimidated by storms of life, I will not bow down to discouraging words. I will rise up when I fall. I will handle the burden of life without complaining

6. I am a woman, that means I am a helper. I will care and walk with people. I will support those in need. I will be of good use wherever I go. I will be a reliable helper to my husband

7. I am a woman, that means I am gentle. I will bring out the humanity in people. I will touch and hug with affection. Warmth will be felt where I am

8. I am a woman, that means I will be rare. My time will be wisely spent. I will not be everywhere and anywhere but very particular about my engagements

9. I am a woman, that means I will be a refuge. I will cover those who are hurting. I will be a shelter to those in need. I will be trusted and within reach. My children will run to me and I will hold them in my fold

10. I am a woman, that means I birth the future. I will increase and multiply. The future will be better because of me. I will give life to ideas

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WHAT LIFE LOOKS LIKE BEFORE AND AFTER YOU TURN 30

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This is so accurate that you’ll fall off laughing! Take a look…

#9 More Secure

Being thirty means being a little more secure. Well, it isn’t as bad as it looks…

#8 True Friends

Well, lesser, the better. They say you don’t need more friends, you need true friends.

Keep reading ahead to see more such amazing differences.

#7 Body problems!

Our body just stops listening to us post 30. No?

#6 A Perfect Trip

Well, the definition of a perfect trip changes drastically.

#5 Priorities

Priorities change with the age. You cannot do anything about it, it’s natural.

#4 So Cheesy

With priorities change the way you romance. Isn’t cheese more satisfying though?

#3 LATE

Let’s just say that by the time we are 30, we are more successful and prioritize our work. Therefore, genuinely LATE is late for us!

#2 The Reaction

Now this is exactly how we’ll react, won’t we?

#1 Optimism!

In the end, it is all about being positive in life. Nothing will go wrong!

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