ON MARRIAGE.
Let's look at the deepest needs of the spouses in marriage, and how to meet them. They are found in Ephesians 5:33. It says "However each one of you must love his wife as he loves himself and the wife must respect her husband." These is the deepest desire of each spouse and therefore the sure root of a marriage. A marriage is as weak or as strong as each "feels" this needs met. The husband, who is a male and a man craves RESPECT above all else.To be HONOURED. Many make the mistake of thinking the husband's greatest need is sex! NO. The wife , who is a female and woman, her greatest need is to be LOVED. To be CHERISHED. Emotional connection. Many think a wife's greatest need is money. NO. She craves to be loved in ways she appreciates. Not in ways that the husband appreciates! And often, the two in marriage can wrongly use their position to manipulate and blackmail. This can be subtle especially among newly weds. But it is cruel and always back fires. Wives, often, without biblical evidence, claim respect must be earned. Look at Ephesians 5:33.."MUST respect." Husbands' too feel the wife should earn their love! That's unfair. "MUST love" . The stalemate is often "who will start"? My advice is. Let the maturer one start. But first be DEEPLY FEED and CARED FOR by CHRIST according to Ephesians 5:29!
Let's look at the deepest needs of the spouses in marriage, and how to meet them. They are found in Ephesians 5:33. It says "However each one of you must love his wife as he loves himself and the wife must respect her husband." These is the deepest desire of each spouse and therefore the sure root of a marriage. A marriage is as weak or as strong as each "feels" this needs met. The husband, who is a male and a man craves RESPECT above all else.To be HONOURED. Many make the mistake of thinking the husband's greatest need is sex! NO. The wife , who is a female and woman, her greatest need is to be LOVED. To be CHERISHED. Emotional connection. Many think a wife's greatest need is money. NO. She craves to be loved in ways she appreciates. Not in ways that the husband appreciates! And often, the two in marriage can wrongly use their position to manipulate and blackmail. This can be subtle especially among newly weds. But it is cruel and always back fires. Wives, often, without biblical evidence, claim respect must be earned. Look at Ephesians 5:33.."MUST respect." Husbands' too feel the wife should earn their love! That's unfair. "MUST love" . The stalemate is often "who will start"? My advice is. Let the maturer one start. But first be DEEPLY FEED and CARED FOR by CHRIST according to Ephesians 5:29!
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