Pornography.
Many people think of porn as just a normal part of an adult Male's life.
Nothing could be further from the truth, and porn is wrecking havoc in marriages all over the world.
Not only is porn creating unrealistic expectations that form the basic beliefs of what sex should be like, it also takes away the eros from the act of lovemaking.
You see there is something we call Erotic Intelligence, which is the understanding of the interplay between mind and body, the art of seduction and the expansion of sex beyond the genitals. Porn deprives many of this important aspect, so that one's Erotic Intelligence is so low, when given the cookie they just want to go bang bang Ohhh.....coming.
Zero mental stimulation, zero tantalising foreplay, zero utilisation of all the five senses for lovemaking, zero building of intense anticipation. Just roughshod thrusting expecting the lady to respond like the paid actors in the blue films.
(One of the topics I look forward to discussing in our upcoming Marriage Coaching classes is Erotic Intelligence).
The unfortunate consequence of taking the person away fro the act, the objectifying of the woman to a mere receptacle of the man's untrained phallus.......the consequence of this is an unfulfilling love relationship, and the lady starts to avoid sex. The frustrated gentleman seeks for it elsewhere......and infidelity becomes a way of life.
Too many married men are watching porn, without realizing the suffocation of real marital affection that results.
Some addicted before marriage ignorantly expected marriage to cure their base lusts, not realizing that there is a heart issue that needs to be dealt with first.
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