RESPECT Language of Men

 So now…my sister…fellow Mrs or Mrs to be..

1. Men understand love as R.E.S.P.E.C.T. Respect him from the word go.

You may not see eye to eye on everything, but you should ALWAYS choose to respect, rather than nag. IF YOU NAG, he will either take to flight and avoid you, or fight you back. Whichever the road, it won’t build your marriage.

Ephesians 5:22

 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord.

2. Approve of him. Approve his decisions. They might not be yours, but that is why you are wife, to first approve before criticizing.

Philippians 2:3

Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves,

3. Seek his advice, in the most obvious thing. I do that often. What dress to wear, color of lipstick, what heels to wear. Seems petty, but it’s the little things that make the big picture.

If we should change the curtains…anything and everything…

It seems mundane, and i know you know what to do, most definitely, but it’s just a way to make his day too!

4. Simply praise him for what he has done, rather can calling to attention his deficiencies or failures! He will never meet your expectations. Get over that very fast!

Instead, Praise his positive qualities. Praise him everywhere.

Let me tell you something, the world only wants to see your downfall in your marriage.

If praising your husband daily even on radio builds your marriage, why not do it?

I mean, if that is what it will take to make your marriage tick so be it! Do it!

If posting everyday about him makes him happy, do it!

If he is a PDA kind of guy do it!

I don’t care what you have to do, and you shouldn’t care less what the world thinks!

When you fail…they will publicly talk about it.

So publicly say “HE IS MY HERO”. Be your husband’s cheerleader and greatest fan.

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5. Listen to him when he talks. Don’t cut his words down. Don’t interject while it’s his turn. Let him talk, and then voice your opinions.

James 1:19

My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.

6.Guard your tongue! A burnt toast never hurt anyone, but words do! You better pinch yourself if you can!

Proverbs 21:23

Those who guard their mouths and their tongues keep themselves from calamity.

7. Accept him for who he is. Not what you want him to be.

Trust him enough to give him freedom to be your man, your husband.

Be a loving wife. A virtuous wife does good to her husband.

Romans 15:7

Accept one another, then, just as Christ accepted you, in order to bring praise to God.

8. This one is hard. Please don’t nag. Reminding him at every given instance.

If you are like me, this will be a tough one, but you can do it.

Asking him once is enough. If you need to remind him be creative enough not to appear nagging.

Don’t go like… “I told you to bring this, how comes you didn’t…ehhh?” “You are so pathetic! “

9. Affirm his position! Don’t go doing things for yourself because he forgot. Resist the urge. Totally! Otherwise you are usurping his role and he might feel belittled.

You can do all things through Christ who strengthens you. Including resisting the urge to overshadow and nag him!

10. Find ways to show interest in his interest(s) and work.

Ask questions about it, you might not get everything, but ask. So far I know a couple of footballers!

11. Guard your heart and mind from external pressures.

Move with your pace, as the two of you. You need not drive a Benz just because your friend is. Appreciate what’s there, and then make the best out of it.

Proverbs 4:23

Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.

12. Ask God to constantly mold you. Marriage requires you to be willing to be purified daily to be a more than gem. Let the Lord give you a teachable spirit, humble enough to learn but courageous enough to move from your past failures without feeling condemned.

For it is God who works in you to will and to act in order to fulfill his good purpose.

It is never to late to change!

Remember beauty and charm is deceptive, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.

#marriageworks #Godspeed.