Fit healthy relationship

 

Today I want to draw from my experience from working with women in fitness and health. I enjoy helping people get fit, and I have realized that there are many points of convergence between fitness and relationships.

1. You reap what you sow. In fitness I have had ladies telling me "hata sikulangi", lakini kwa ground she never stops eating until she sees "made in china" at the bottom of her plate.

In marriages I hear folks desiring amazing relationships, but they feed on everything that assures them of terrible relationships.

If you spend your time listening to Maina in the morning and other characters that daily harp about how marriages dont work....how do you expect to have an awesome marriage?

Are you sowing positive seeds in your mind about your relationship? You reap what you sow.

2. You can have excuses or results, but you cannot have both.

In fitness I have heard all sorts of excuses, people blame everything from their genes to being busy. "Oh, in our family we have heavy bones"......kumbe it's just the plate that is heavy. If the contents of your plate are heavier than your dumbbells, there is a problem. In marriage I hear the same.....Oh, I don't have money to take her out ( while you comfortably bet every weekend and have enough to imbibe with the boys).

"Oh, am just not the romantic type".......so you are not the romantic type yet you always want to visit Netherlands.....Ahem.

Why don't you have one hour every week where just the 2 of you catch up and plan together? (Did an excuse just pop in your mind?)

3. It takes work and crazy commitment to see results in fitness, and relationships are no different. I know how tough my journey getting into shape after the babies was. It did not just happen by chance......I worked at it.

Great marriages are not the results of being highly compatible.......no, it takes intentionality and commitment to make things work.

Are you committed to seeing your relationship Thrive or are you only interested when there is no effort required. Do you want results without Process?.....that is classic witchcraft.

4. In fitness, Consistency is the name of the game. So it is in marriage.

If you have the consistency of a Kenyan politician, your relationship will not thrive.

What do you do daily to make your marriage better?

What consistent habits do you have that build your marriage?

Success is camouflaged in your daily habits.

I don't believe in "cheat days" in fitness.....and you definitely cannot Cheat in your relationship and expect it to thrive. Faithfulness must be your consistent default.

5. Last, and maybe the most important.....there are No shortcuts in this thing.

In fitness I see people trying detox, teatox.....and even guava leaves.....in the hope of suddenly getting a flat belly. Doesn't work, never will. It takes consistent effort over TIME to get results.

Marriages are no different. There is no one thing you will do that will suddenly make your communication better. You have to work at it together, over time, patiently.....no shortcuts.

No one can lay hands on you and pray you out of a journey of character change that is required to be a great husband or wife.

You have to work at it, yourself.

You cannot outsource your Fitness, Neither can you Outsource your marital responsibility.

No one can do a Push up for you, No one can marinate your partner for you!

Have a Fit healthy relationship!

Borrowed from Dr. Fit