WAITING ON THE LORD-BOAZ VS BOZO
To all my ladies, who are yet to be married… Singleness to
most of us is about fun, exploration and enjoying life to the brim.
Of course in that fun, we all make some bad choices, but if
one is enough quick to learn, you can move on faster and wiser than before.
Mistakes are part of growth. We are not always 100%, but
that shouldn’t give you your identity.
Aspire to be better, learn and move on ASAP, with greater
courage and wisdom. Still, part of growing up are the intricacies of
relationships.
You met a guy, you fall in love, the butterflies, the
‘muumuus’ and the sweet nothings are part of the day to day stuff.
The chemistry is just too much. I know, it’s amazing to be
loved and to love. It’s the closest feeling to heaven. For some, the true
colors of this guy you are dating are seen from the onset while for others, it
takes longer.
The truth is, you can’t know the person you are dating
100%, something which not so many are told. You know the person more in
marriage, where the right atmosphere for Agape love to blossom is found. Back
to Mr. Charming.
He is this guy that you can’t get over. His physique is to
die for! He has loads of cash, he drives, is articulate, smart, witty, he is
hands on, his sense of humor is just on point.
I mean what more could a lil’ mama ever want! So you date him, and within a few months you
have a little being growing inside of you.
Who wouldn’t want to be preggers! Woo-hoo!! With such a
man, ohhhh! I mean.
You begin to imagine the life you will live. The house you
will live in, the car, the insurance, don’t forget the massive shopping, the
little mittens and booties she/he will wear, your baby is so lucky!
You count yourself lucky. You didn’t use ‘Dr. Karim from
Tanzania’ charms, no jujus, you are simply blessed!
So you tell this guy you are preggers and the next thing
that follows is a spat on your face. “Am not responsible”, “Naaahh, I can’t be
the dad”, “it’s not mine” -As if you can conceive immaculately like Mary.
Or worse, he takes responsibility, but you realize you are
number 101, and he has 201 children, and there are others whom he has no idea
about. The figures are exaggerated, but, there are men like that.
The world is full of Bozos’. Of course for every bad seeds
there are always good ones. Not all are unfaithful, not all are ‘Bozos’. ‘Boaz’
exists.
These are men and husbands who are a darling! They are
simply the sweetest, adorable, hardworking, loving and caring men.
They take care of their families, they are faithful to
their vows and are gentlemen. Stereotyping them won’t help your attitude. God
always has remnants in every place. He had them during Elijah’s time, He still
has them now.
It’s funny how a video that has the husband beating the
wife gets a million views, and so does the one with a husband or wife cheating,
yet, one that has a husband and wife happy, or hugging – like the photo of our
dear President hugging his wife – is jeered, it’s criticized, and a funny
stickman goes around saying this “Jane is Smart, Jane doesn’t post her pictures
of her husband because she is smart, Be like Jane.”
That’s another lie from the devil.
Oh! If you are happily married! Shout it on top of the
mountain! Let the devil and all his little demons know that marriage works!
That union can never be overrated. Marriage can never be
overrated. If that builds your relationship, fill up your Facebook wall with
her pictures Mr.!
After all, marriage is about the other person, and if both
of you have found your path, occupy to the fullest.
‘Boaz’ exists and so does a ‘Bozo’. Notwithstanding all the
marriage talks around, you end up making a mistake of marrying that man in
hopes that he will miraculously develop the qualities you desire in a husband.
A common mistake among ladies. You end up marrying a
“Bozo”, who has perfected the art of makeup and cosmetics.
You are intrigued by the ‘made up’ face he has, and you
forget to look behind the mask.
Every lady’s being has been infused with intuitiveness.
You can feel when a relationship is not right. You know the
kind of man you need, but you compromise out of fear of being alone, pressure,
etc. etc.
To discern a Bozo, you need to take a keen look at him,
observe any red flags and pray.
His perfection of the outward look is simply ingenious.
He can put up a show for you, only to later realize it was
all a facade. Do not rush to just settle and survive through your marriage,
instead, get married to live in abundance of joy through it all, enjoying,
thriving and thanking God daily for giving you a man from his throne.
Funny how things nowadays are so different.
You rush towards a Bozo, instead of Boaz rushing towards
you.
You find Bozo, instead of Boaz finding you.
Look at Boaz in the Bible, he was a man worth waiting for.
He needs to find you, waiting for him. He was God fearing, a man of
unquestionable character, he was full of integrity, meek, caring and hospitable
to his workers, yet he was full of riches.
Therefore, riches shouldn’t make a man arrogant. They say
good men nowadays don’t exist.
Truth be told, good men still exist. God clearly knows the
heart of a human being inclines to evil, but still knows that you can make a
choice to be the last man standing, and be counted faithful
Are you with Bozo or Boaz
1.
A
Bozo will drain you, a Boaz will build you.
2.
Marriage
is never a sprint race.
It’s a long long long marathon. Take an
example of Tyson gay, the USA based sprinter and our very own marathon runner,
Wilson Kipchoge. If you were to pick out a man based on his physique, I can bet
most ladies would pick Tyson. Why, he is lean, so chiseled, muscular and
ripped. Marathon runners look weak, pale, skinny and wasted. Now, if placed in
40 kilometers race, Tyson would not make it to the end of the first kilometer.
– Our marathon runner, Kipchoge, would win the race without breaking a sweat.
Why? It’s because, both are fit, but trained in different kinds of races. A
sprinter needs propelling power, a marathon runner needs endurance. A sprinter
only needs 7-10 seconds to finish the race, a marathon runner can be running
for upto 2 hours or more. He needs to have trained his body to have endurance.
That he can stand the scorching sun, he can stand the rain, and he can stand
any weather variation. A sprinter is not trained for endurance. No wonder they
look built. Their diet is different too. A sprinter feeds on more proteins and
low carb diet, while a marathon runner feeds on more carbohydrates. With that
said, I reiterate again, marriage is a marathon. You have to have the right
spirit, the right attitude, the right expectation, the right training for you
to succeed. Your mind should be set on finishing the race. There’s no rule book
on marriage, you just learn for others, pick what is relevant, and cut your own
path.
3.
A
Boaz will have his mind and strength towards you, a Bozo will make you change
your direction and cause a premature death to God’s plan for your life.
4.
A
Boaz will complement you, a Bozo will compete with you. Your differences will
be celebrated and those that add no value will be shed off.In Ruth 2:1, 4, the
Bible describes Boaz as a man who was worthy and he believed in the Lord.
5.
A
Boaz will be a man of unquestionable character. He is of good reputation and he
is not afraid of you finding out more about him. The Bible still says that a
good name is better than silver or gold. A good name gives one favor. He has
his reference point as Christ. As I said before, you cannot change a man. Only
the Lord can mold him.
Only the Lord can smoothen his
rough edges, only the Holy Spirit can convict, and your character will direct
him towards Christ.
6.
A
Bozo will believe that he can do it on his own, with no regards to authority
.He is wicked and unbecoming. Nabal was such a man. Boaz went further to ask
Ruth to glean in his own field, among the women, so that she would be safe. He
also instructed his men not to touch Ruth. How many men in this modern society
would have such standards? We hide under the term “modern trends”, “society has
changed”, and we need to keep up. The gospel has been diluted to attract the
younger generation and the true gospel of the cross is not preached. Society
has lost its moral standards. The moral fiber is rotten to the core.
7.
A
Bozo will sleep with you at whichever instance if you cannot respect yourself.
He will have no regards of your boundaries if you have no regards to them too.
8.
A
Boaz clearly knows that and he will protect you even from the ones he knows. He
will set the record straight to them and to you.
9.
A
Boaz will protect your purity till the right time. He is a master of his own
emotions and feelings.
10.
Being
a provider is not about having cars, and lots of money and a house. It’s about
knowing that as a husband, you are the head of your family and under your care,
they will thrive. That you can go miles to fend for your family, and you need
not be told over and over again that you should provide.
11.
A
Boaz will be a provider to his family, and support their needs, just like the
way Boaz took care of Ruth, while Bozo is an irresponsible, immature man with
his priorities upside down.
12.
If
there is one thing I know and believe is that Abigail was an attractive woman.
She was wise and beautiful. Unlucky for her, she married a Bozo by the name of
Nabal. He didn’t notice her kindness, her good deeds and her industrious
nature. He was sucked up in his own world of evil and wickedness. Boaz on the
other hand took note of Ruth’s character, good deeds and kindness.
13.
A
Boaz will study you, take note of your inward beauty as much as you are
beautiful on the outside. He will notice that inner beauty that doesn’t fade
because the outward one does.
14.
A
Boaz will keep complementing you for your good qualities, and seek to
understand you. He will work to make you the happiest woman alive. He will
cleave to you.
15.
A
Bozo will not even notice when you have saved him from a predicament. Nabal did
not notice that his wife Abigail wasn’t there when she went to ask David to
spare their life.
16.
A
Bozo is self-centered and selfish. No wonder, immediately after God stuck him,
Abigail run straight to David’s arms! A man after God’s own heart.
17.
Boaz
used to take care of the people around him. Am sure his workers, both men and
women were happy to work for him. He was a kind man who had espoused good
values and always disposed to help.
18.
A
Boaz will always be helpful, and compassionate. He cannot mistreat his wife, he
cannot mistreat others.
19.
A
Bozo will always be critical, intolerant, corrupt, harmful, vicious,
materialistic and egocentric.
20.
Psalms
1 says this, “Blessed is the man who does not walk in step with the wicked, or
stand in the way that sinners take, or sit in the company of mockers”. The
saying goes, “show me your friends and I will tell you the kind person you are
“. The people around you determine to a large extent how your character will
be. Two cannot walk unless they agree. A thief walks with a thief. Boaz was a
man of integrity. He was not manipulative to Ruth, he followed the right
procedures in betrothing her, and waited till the whole process is done.
21.
A
Boaz is a man of integrity. He does not WALK in the counsel of the wicked. He
does not STAND in the way of sinners, he does not SIT in the seat of mockers.
His delight is always in Lord.
22.
A
Boaz is therefore fruitful in his ways. Both in season and out of season, he
continues to flourish. This is because he leans on the unending source of joy,
he leans on the Lord.
23.
A
Bozo’s life is always dry. He has to use corrupt means to flourish.
Who does your husband to be listen
to more often? Who gives him counsel? Which company does he walk with? Where do
you find him mostly?
24.
A
Bozo is a man whose is largely controlled by his self will. He cannot control
himself. He gets really pissed off when things don’t go his way. It’s either
his way or no way.
25.
A
Boaz can rise above any failure or disappointments that happen in this life. He
is willing to adjust himself to be better.
26.
A
Bozo is really rigid, with an unteachable spirit. He cannot learn, he cannot be
corrected.
27.
A
Boaz is a humble man, meek, willing to be corrected, willing to learn. Ladies,
your Boaz exists. Develop yourself, enrich yourself, be the best you can be,
pray to God for discernment, court wisdom, and our Lord, being a generous God,
will fill you. Be a Ruth, and you will be found by your Boaz.
#marriage works #Gods
